Letting go of past dreams June 24, 2008
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I had one of those very vivid late pregnancy dreams and from a regular “character” learnt something. At some stage in our lives we have to decide whether holding onto the dreams of our youth is actually holding us back or inspiring us to move forward.
I have had a certain set of dreams for a long time that I have linked to this character and last night I realised that those dreams don’t care about me, that there isn’t a connection anymore except a painful reminder of how differently my adult life has turned out to be from those dreams. Holding onto those dreams is no longer inspiring for my future.
In fact holding onto them makes me bitter in my present life and that emotion can only hold me back from achieving different dreams in my present and future that may have just as much value and importance if I would let go of the bitterness associated with the past unachieved dreams.
I am feeling a lot lighter this morning. I feel inspired to go looking for new dreams, to define the whispers of other dreams I have had so that I can move forward into my future with hope of new goals.
Best wishes,
CV
Combining a Control Journal with Franklin Covey Planner ideas June 3, 2008
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Anyone out there? April 1, 2008
Posted by chocolatevegetables in Uncategorized.Tags: Blogging, Children, Family, Food, Home, Home Education, home management, Home school, Homeschool, Homeschooling, Me, Motivation, Organisation, Priorities
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I guess I haven’t been around much. So if you have given up looking at my blog I can totally understand. I didn’t really start this to get popular or anything anyway. I really just wanted a place to write like in a journal except that I could easily re-read my posts by following the tags. I do come back and re-read them quite a bit and ponder more on what I have posted before.
I am not working at the supermarket any more and that is a whole lot easier on our family life. I am trying to get lots done at home before this baby arrives. I have tidied up a lot of boxes and still have more to go. Next on my list is to sort out all the outgrown clothes I have been carting around for years that aren’t being used fully because I always seem to find them just after the child has moved on to the next size. Today I bought another 6 32L storage boxes and 2 50L storage boxes. That should keep me busy!
I haven’t been doing school with the boys. I really want to get some discipline in that area but have a few other things on my mind at the same time. The whole family could do with some dietary changes to see if some health issues clear up. It will take a lot of guts on my part to have the gumption to stick with the changes I think should be made. Wonder if I have it in me!?
Well, maybe I will post again soon, or maybe not! Need to get on with some food prep for some hungry little boys.
Best wishes,
CV
Ponderings on my Grandma March 1, 2008
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My grandma always had a clean house, organised yet cosy. But you know what, she never played with us grandkids. She could give us things to play games with but she didn’t play. I guess her love language was to do things for us but now she is gone I really miss that I didn’t get to know her. We lived in the same town for 2 years and in a town not that far away for another 3 years yet all I remember of her was her doing things in the kitchen or laundry all day for us.
I have run into the same issue myself. I can push my kids away because I am busy cooking or busy doing dishes but my kids probably don’t and won’t see that doing those things is Love when they would rather have my attention as Love when they are this young. I also have high standards for how I like the work done and I take the same path as my grandma (and mum) in that I tend to do the work all myself instead of taking the time to train little hands to do the work along side me. Down the track my kids will not appreciate the Love I showed by doing the dishes to my high standard. They will though appreciate the Love I show now by doing things with them, even if sometimes by necessity that is dishes or cleaning, and they will also gain the skills of doing these things for themselves later in life if I take the time to train those little hands.
My biggest priority has always been building a close-knit family. While there is family loyalty in my grandma’s family I am not so sure the closeness that could be there is there. I need to remember that I can do both my chores and build my family. I just need to break the pattern of doing it all on my own.
Thank you to Lorrie for her insights in the second session on the E-Seminar End Your Scheduling Frustrations Forever. I have been really enjoying the insights from Cindy and Lorrie as I listen to these sessions on my MP3 player while I deliver junk mail. I am sure I will be listening to these again and again because I really feel I will get more insight into how to do things different and better for me instead of just following the paths taken by my grandma and mum.
Best wishes,
CV
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